4 Things You Actually Need in a Perineal Massage Tool (To Make It Through Your Third Trimester)

Let’s be real for a second: perineal massage isn’t exactly on anyone’s "pregnancy bucket list." It sounds intimidating, feels a bit strange, and honestly—once you hit week 35—it feels physically impossible to even reach the area, let alone do a massage.

To make sure you actually stick with it and feel prepared for birth without giving up after two days, there are 4 non-negotiables your tool needs to have. Here is why perimom is the only one that makes the cut:

The "Belly-Bypass" Curve (No Gymnastics Required!)

By the third trimester, your bump is a serious roadblock. You shouldn't have to be a circus contortionist just to reach your perineum.

• Why it matters: If it’s physically exhausting or uncomfortable to reach, you’re just not going to do it. Consistency is everything when you're preparing your body for labor.

• The perimom way: It’s designed as a natural extension of your arm. The specific curve "bypasses" your belly entirely, allowing you to reach the vaginal opening easily while sitting comfortably. No twisting, no straining—just reach and go.

A Rock-Solid Grip that Saves Your Wrists

An effective massage takes about 7 minutes, and you’ll want to do it 3–4 times a week. When you add massage oil into the mix, things get slippery and awkward fast.

• Why it matters: Gripping a thin "stick" or a narrow handle while applying pressure for 7 minutes is a recipe for wrist pain—something many of us already deal with during pregnancy (hello, carpal tunnel!).

• The perimom way: It features a real, wide, ergonomic handle that fits perfectly in your palm. You can hold it with total confidence and control. Most importantly, it drastically reduces the strain on your wrist, so you can finish your session without your hands cramping up.

The "Less-Mess" Patent (The Oil Channel)

Oil is a must for a smooth massage, but it usually ends up everywhere—on your hands, all over the device, and eventually on your bedsheets.

• Why it matters: In the homestretch of pregnancy, the last thing you want is more laundry or a slippery mess to clean up.

• The perimom way: It has a clever, built-in oil channel. You simply drop the oil into the channel, and it flows directly to the tip. Your hands stay dry, your grip stays firm, and the oil goes exactly where it's supposed to.

A "Thumb-Like" Tip for the Right Kind of Stretch

A lot of tools look like something out of a cold, clinical doctor’s office. You want something that feels intuitive and safe.

• Why it matters: The goal is to gently stretch the vaginal opening using a "U-shape" motion (pressing downward and out to the sides). You need a tip that understands this specific anatomy.

• The perimom way: The tip is specifically shaped like a human thumb. It’s not meant for deep, scary penetration; it’s built specifically for the vaginal opening. It mimics the natural feel of a manual massage, allowing you to apply that U-shape pressure effectively and comfortably. It turns a clinical task into a much softer, more manageable experience.

The Bottom Line:

I chose perimom because it’s the only tool that doesn't try to be a "do-it-all" gadget. It was designed specifically for how a pregnant body actually moves and feels. It makes birth prep accessible, clean, and—most importantly—actually doable.